Call me crazy, but I like to think regardless of what happens in the world around me, there will always be circumstances that I can not control. And no matter how awful it gets, I can’t lose my north star, the principles that guide me. Once I do that, it’s game over and I’ve lost. I in no way can control the actions of others, but I can and always must be in control of my own actions. The best way to do that is to have that north star, that standard that I can use to determine what’s real, what fake, where my responsibilities end and someone else’s begin.

You say human decency has already been pushed off the cliff. That may be true for them, but about you? My guess is it’s still very much a core value of yours. Yeah, it’s a crappy thing to see others toss decency by the way side. But their lack of decency in no way diminishes mine. My north star (convictions) mandate treating others with respect and care is a core value, to throw it away makes me just like them.

One moves forward based on the strength of their convictions.

Those folks have said by their actions that compassion, science, reason, empathy, et al are not convictions they hold. Okay. That’s really sad for them, but that is in no way license or compulsion for me to follow suit. That decision is wholly my own. They can’t plant seed of apathy and hate and expect roses to bloom. The universe doesn’t work that way.

If your heart is so moved to “go to the bottom and pick up the shattered spirits of those who have been the casualties of racist rhetoric” or who have been denigrated, by all means do so, and don’t waste time pondering the dilemma. The thing people tend to forget is this: just because someone says something, doesn’t make it so. People simply need to be reminded of that. Not just in words, but in actions as well. That’s love. Everyone in their right mind knows that veterans are not losers or suckers. People who’ve taken those lies to heart have simply lost their way. They need people who know the difference between the truth and a lie to dispel the lie by reinforcing the truth.

Moving forward in no way means forgetting what you’ve witnessed. It’s good to remember, because in doing so we learn how not to fall for the same patterns of deception again. We learn how better to handle situations and “difficult” people. There are plenty of people I’d like to embrace again, but not at the expense of my own well-being. If people don’t want to hear the good news of love and all that it entails . . . well, that’s unfortunate. For them. One can never for another to eat at their table. If they want to practice hate, they obviously aren’t interested in what I have to say. It’s not fine, but they’ll have to separate from me.If they’d like to join me, great; but I’m dealing with hate.

I’m striving as best I can to stay on my path with love as my guiding star.

Sometimes when reconciling we have to cut our loses and move on.

Thanks for commenting, V.


Author, artist, accidental activist, founder Our Human Family (http://medium.com/our-human-family). Social media: @clayrivers. Love one another.

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