Just kidding. LOL!

Mr. Interculturalisticman, you crack me up! Of course I’m going to respond to your critique. How could you think otherwise? I respond to all critiques and comments … unless they border on the absurd.

You and several others of my favorite authors (alto, Ezinne, Meg, and Violet, to name a very few) make engaging those who don’t think before they write look easy. They take it to an art form. You guys have no problem present your positions in a cogent manner; but when necessary you guys know how to take care of business. It takes me too long to work at that level. (Thanks to time travel, you’d never know it took me four full days to write this reply.) Honestly, I don’t think I’ve seen anyone in my “tribe” lay into anyone who didn’t ask for it a couple of times first. The majority of the people I follow give others the benefit of the doubt from the jump.

“The last word.” another reason I try not to go down the smack-down road. It’s so easy for me to fall into the one-upmanship trap. I will end this — after they apologize. And it just goes on and on and on.

Allow me to offer a salve for the sting that accompanies thinking that you’ve been “misunderstood, disrespected, and unfulfilled” when you don’t strike back. Chances are high you have indeed been misunderstood and disrespected; but there’s no need to feel unfulfilled.

For me, my fulfillment comes from helping someone broaden their perspective on the world or a situation they’re in. Green hearts are wonderful, I won’t lie. And a lot of green hearts is freaking awesome. But when someone says/writes that something I wrote spoke to them in a positive way or was what they needed to read at that moment. That’s fulfillment for me.

Taking out trolls will never be fulfilling for you or anyone who recognizes another person’s humanity. If you found trolling trolls fulfilling, that’d make you a troll.

Face it. There are people out there who live to draw others out, find their sensitivities, and then exploit those perceived weaknesses by saying all manner of ridiculous crap just for sport and the misery of others. Their goal to have their adversary come undone. They thrive on people squirming under their thumb.

That mentality is very juvenile. They’re looking for one thing only: attention. (I know you know this, but I’m on my soapbox now so bear with me.) The way to win with some of those “beasts of prey” (that’s very apropos, BTW) is to shut them down before they even start.

I hope readers understand that “stop, block, and roll” isn’t a one-size-fits-all strategy. It takes a time and a discerning eye, and several hits and more misses to know when it’s worth it or not to engage someone with a harsh delivery of their point of view.

Anyway … you know what to do, just don’t let them drag them under the bridge, even if you come out unscathed. It’s nasty under there. [shudders]

Author, artist, accidental activist, founder Our Human Family ( Social media: @clayrivers. Love one another.

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